D/s and how to make it more fun

[12:56] Tarl Field: And its more of a relaxed class tonight as i want your input as well so we all can help people getting new ideas
[12:57] Tarl Field: i guess yogi felt he was in the wrong place
[12:58] Tarl Field: We can start it off slowly with a common problem in all relationships in bdsm.

[12:59] Tarl Field: After a time it gets to a state of rutine your sub has learned what you wanted her to learn and its starting to feeling boring.
[12:59] Tarl Field: Before that happens you need to ask yourself what can we do to make it fun and exciting again
[13:00] Tarl Field: So does a sub always have to do things in a special way or can she add little ideas of her own to a session to spice it up a bit

[13:00] Tarl Field: Welcome joan

[13:00] Joan Randt: thanks
[13:01] Tarl Field: I know from myself i am a creature of habits
[13:01] Tarl Field: And i am sure others are as well.
[13:01] Tarl Field: BUt we as dominant have a responsability to challange our subs and they in turn must challange us
[13:02] Tarl Field: Which may sound strange to say that a sub must challange a dom

[13:03] Tarl Field: Now i sdont mean the sub should be disrespectful
[13:03] Tarl Field: But sometimes a sub needs to be a bit of a brat to ignite that little extra spark in the dom...
[13:03] Baby Anatra: smiles big
[13:03] Anaxagoras McMillan: just subtile - smiles

[13:04] Tarl Field: And we doms need to challange the girls by giving the some extra evil tasks
[13:04] Tarl Field: Maybe lioke taking them out for dinner but giving them a bob to keep them company under their clothes
[13:05] Tarl Field: and most girls know what i mean with b.o.b

[13:05] Anaxagoras McMillan: lol

[13:06] Tarl Field: So far any questions or remarks?

[13:07] Jini Shearer: i am sorry but i dont know what a b.o.b is
[13:07] Anaxagoras McMillan: battery operated boyfriend

[13:07] Anaxagoras McMillan: lol
[13:07] Tarl Field chuckles
[13:07] Jini Shearer: aaahh thank u
[13:08] Tarl Field: When is the biggest risk for a D/s relationship to get boring?
[13:08] Anaxagoras McMillan: hmmmmm
[13:08] Ivet Writer: good evening, Tarl
[13:08] Anaxagoras McMillan: i think it can become vanilia or less trilling
[13:09] Tarl Field: evening ivet
[13:09] Tarl Field: well thats the risk
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[13:10] Tarl Field: But what i mean is if the relationship gets so organised you kow that around the time the kids go to sleep they toys come out it gets boring as its get to be a rutine
[13:10] Tarl Field: But its not hard to make it fun again all you need is a bit of imagination

[13:11] coralie Johin is Online
[13:11] Tarl Field: as i said planting a bob in your sub under a sexy dress and its a advantage if its radio controlled and nte wired
[13:11] Tarl Field: Or telling her to use no under wear under a short skirt/dress
[13:12] Anaxagoras McMillan smiles with a blush
[13:12] Tarl Field: Or if your having kids getting a babysiter and going out to the town and going to a hotel after and spending the night away from home with some bondage games
[13:13] Tarl Field: Or doing something as simple as blindfolding your sub and making her think your showing her off to the public but your not... grins
[13:13] Maria Vought: I think sms's throughout the day, building up to a scene, is also a good way to spice things up

[13:13] Tarl Field: Maria thats one way

[13:14] Tarl Field: Or sending your sub to work with something inside her unpowered so its just sitting there reminding her what will be when she gets home
[13:15] Tarl Field: If you live in a house it might be a bit to risky to leave a note on the door for her to strip down to her underwear and wait for you to open the door
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[13:15] Tarl Field: But it will spice things up

[13:16] Tarl Field: Or doing shopping with your girl to something she dont expect
[13:16] Tarl Field: this works best if you have a garage
[13:16] Tarl Field: As you need to tie you girl up and lock her in the trunk of your car or in the nagage area if you have a stationwagon
[13:17] Tarl Field: bagage
[13:17] Tarl Field: The dangers with this is if you get in a accident or get pulled over by the cop
[13:17] BelleVie Moonites giggles at the thought of explaining that to the officer
[13:18] Anaxagoras McMillan: @
[13:18] Tarl Field: As many of you are thinking is how to explain it to the cops...
[13:18] Anaxagoras McMillan: ist all about trill and excitement, not?

[13:18] Tarl Field: My advice is dont get stopped...lol
[13:18] Anaxagoras McMillan smiles
[13:18] Tarl Field: and also dont do it during a heatwave
[13:18] Master Frakture: Laughs, very good advice.
[13:18] BelleVie Moonites: lol....there is fun in the risk.
[13:19] Tarl Field: specially not if you have a sedan
[13:19] Tarl Field: well if you get pulled over the risk is for the dom if the sub wants to get even she might kick inside the trunk
[13:19] Tarl Field: so its exciting for both
[13:20] Tarl Field: Or why not roleplay plannign a day without interuptions and doing a robber captive scen
[13:20] Tarl Field: with the dom as the robber and the sub being the sexy housewife
[13:20] Tarl Field: getting bound and ravished... grins
[13:20] Anaxagoras McMillan: @
[13:21] Tarl Field: yes anax
[13:21] xXElBeReThXx Dragovar: se reparten caramelos ?
[13:21] Anaxagoras McMillan: or simply turn a relax evening in to lecture and hard questions
[13:21] Anaxagoras McMillan: makes me small
[13:21] Tarl Field: thats one thing you an do
[13:21] Tarl Field: can
[13:21] Tarl Field: or introdue a new training excersice
[13:22] Tarl Field: having the sub serve you drinks while she is restrained
[13:22] Tarl Field: Of course restrained so she has a fair chance of making it but it will be hard
[13:22] Tarl Field: tieing her hands in front connected to a crotchrope
[13:23] Tarl Field: which will pull the rope tight every time she has to reach for something
[13:23] Anaxagoras McMillan: oh my
[13:23] Tarl Field: and of course when she is kneeling she has to keep the rope extra tight to not drop the tray.-... grins evil
[13:24] Anaxagoras McMillan: your a sadist Sir :)
[13:24] Tarl Field: And if the sub learns to master it fast add som extra high heels
[13:24] Tarl Field: Baby and pink am i sadist?

[13:25] Tarl Field: I been called evil and being pure evil but not a sadist but maybe i am
[13:25] Anaxagoras McMillan: was ment in funny way Sir
[13:25] Baby Anatra: smiles at Master can be very evil at times
[13:25] Tarl Field: I know dear dont worry.-... grins
[13:25] Tarl Field: Or if you want to use a evil way of punishing your girl
[13:26] Tarl Field: tie them into a tight hogtie

[13:26] Tarl Field: tie three ropes from the bound girl to diffrent places and diffrent lengths
[13:26] Tarl Field: blindfold her and tell her she is free when she reaches your feet... grins

[13:28] Tarl Field: that will make her work as if she dont make it in a set time she will have to spend the night like that
[13:29] Tarl Field: All you need is some evil ideas and the mental strength to do without thinking your to cruel to the girl you love

[13:29] Tarl Field: Which after a tiome is not as easy as you think
[13:29] Tarl Field: Any questions so far
[13:30] Anaxagoras McMillan: no Sir
[13:31] Tarl Field: Any suggestions from the class what you can do... smiles

[13:31] Anaxagoras McMillan: maybe yes
[13:32] Tarl Field: go on anax
[13:32] Koko Falworth: smiles at Sir Griff and alma

[13:32] Anaxagoras McMillan: to learn protocols, nice things to use, and practisch a lot to master them, and so much you can use
[13:32] Alma Fiertze smiles and waves :)
[13:33] Anaxagoras McMillan: serving drinks, how to behave at different situations etc
[13:33] Tarl Field: correct anax
[13:33] Tarl Field: that is specially usefull if you have people that are in bdsm comes for a visit
[13:34] Anaxagoras McMillan: yes and little show off what i have learned :)
[13:34] Tarl Field: Also in normal situations set of rules is always good to use as the sub needs to adjust to not being to obvious that she is a sub
[13:34] Anaxagoras McMillan: and make my Master smile and feel proud
[13:34] Tarl Field: Thats a good statement from anax and it sums up the most things a sub wants.
[13:35] Tarl Field: She or he wants their owner to be proud of them and they want to please the person thats there owner
[13:35] Tarl Field: If a sub feels she is not being allowed to do those basic things she will feel worthless
[13:36] Tarl Field: And that is basically the same as your killing your sub
[13:36] Anaxagoras McMillan: nods
[13:36] Anaxagoras McMillan: @
[13:36] Tarl Field: anax
[13:36] Master Frakture: I agree wholeheartedly Tarl.
[13:36] Anaxagoras McMillan: one owner i had little over a year ago...
[13:36] Anaxagoras McMillan: thought having power means always tell no if i request
[13:37] BelleVie Moonites: thats abuse of power
[13:37] Anaxagoras McMillan: yea
[13:37] BelleVie Moonites quickly puts her hands over her mouth not meaning to interrupt
[13:37] Tarl Field: Now thats also a problem for some new dominants
[13:37] Anaxagoras McMillan: but always tell yes get boring to :)
[13:37] Tarl Field: A dom needs to remember to always listen to a sub as sometimes they do need to talk
[13:38] Tarl Field: outside the rules or roles as dom sub
[13:38] BelleVie Moonites wonders about that as Sir Tarl keeps his subs gagged.
[13:38] Tarl Field: If your rich you can have your girl as a full time sub
[13:38] Koko Falworth: Dominates are not mind readers? :-)
[13:39] Tarl Field: but most of us are not rich so a realistic way of finding time for the play is needed
[13:39] Alma Fiertze giggles
[13:41] Tarl Field: but you need som imagination and you can think up some fun things to do with out to much trouble
[13:42] Tarl Field: And you might wonder why baby is unrestrained and pink is locked up and gagged

[13:42] Tarl Field: well baby is not as free as you think
[13:42] Tarl Field: Her restraints are locked on
[13:42] Tarl Field: and she has not held her keys since she submitted to me
[13:43] Tarl Field: and pink well she is a big brat so she is being kept this way to teach her a lesson

[13:43] Tarl Field: But keeping a sub gagged will make them feel more helpless then any ropes can make them feel
[13:44] Tarl Field: But there are a few things to think of when it comes to gags.
[13:44] Tarl Field: One make sure they dont restricts breathing
[13:44] Tarl Field: Two never leave a sub alone when gagged
[13:45] Tarl Field: you can make them think they are alone if they are blindfolded and having earplugs in their ears
[13:45] Tarl Field: And if you want to use a layer gag start with a cleveage gag then add the packing then a scarf over the mouth to keep it in place
[13:45] Tarl Field: That way they wont choke

[13:47] Tarl Field: any questions so far
[13:47] Anaxagoras McMillan: no Sir

[13:48] Tarl Field: Any one that has anything they wanted to ask but never did ...
[13:49] Tarl Field: Alright as i dont have much more to add i thank you for coming
[13:49] Anaxagoras McMillan: thank you for the class Sir tarl
[13:49] Tarl Field: And i hope you had fun and got some more ideas of how to torment your subs
[13:49] John11011967 Karu: Good Talk thank you Tarl
[13:50] Maria Vought: thank you Sir Tarl
[13:50] anastasia Edenflower: thank you Sir Tarl
[13:50] Koko Falworth: thank you Sir Tarl
[13:50] Tarl Field grins and grabs baby and gags her and locks her wrist behind her back...
[13:50] John11011967 Karu: *Waves* Hi kadan

[13:50] Kaddan Yue hi hon

[13:50] Anaxagoras McMillan: smiles
[13:50] Tarl Field: not that she did anything bad but i like her gagged
[13:51] Tarl Field: *grab
[13:51] Tarl Field: And as i said gagging a sub makes them feel more helpless
[13:52] Tarl Field: And again thank you for coming

[13:52] Tarl Field: i will clean the notecard up a bit then it will be posted in the group and on the website

[13:52] Joan Randt: thanks
[13:53] Jini Shearer: thank u sir tarl
[13:53] Anaxagoras McMillan waves 'good evening to you Sir tarl and everyone"
[13:53] Maria Vought accepted your inventory offer.
[13:54] Tarl Field: Have a good eving and dont forget i have a mail box outside where you can drop notecards if you have questions