Saturday, 25 April 2009

Weekly Kinky Newsletter Issue 15 Apr 27 - May 3

Newsletter for BDSM-Life!



In this newsletter:

1. Adult Content Change - Lord Sullivan
2. Scarlet Letter Hunt
3. Puppyplay by Happy Hawkeye
4. Pick Offer from Eye-Catcher
5. Naughty Story by Bastet Lyon
6. BDSM-Life Slave Auctions
7. Photo Contest
8. Classifieds and Personal Ads
9. Events @ BDSM-Life
10. In other news.....

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1. Adult Content Change - Lord Sullivan



As many of you are aware or maybe not, LL is planning to segregate Adult content to a new continent called "Ursula" in June/July 2009 which will mean that to access Adult Content all avatars will have to either be verifed with "Payment info Used", "Payment info on file" or verified via Aristotle, LL 3rd party verification service or have purchased via xstreet and have payment info on file there.

This is to bring it to your attention and calls for your support as LL is failing to notify the population as a whole which we think is unfair. The links below will lead you to ongoing discussions in the forums and we call for your support in spreading the word as LL seems unable to do so.

This change will affect everyone in one way or another and is to in depth to explain it all here. So please take the time to browse the links below.

https://blogs.secondlife.com/community/community/blog/2009/04/21/update--upcoming-changes-for-adult-content

More information can be found here:
About Maturity Ratings

Adult-oriented content controls FAQ

Blog post with provisional dates

There is a forum thread where you can post your questions for a LL representative to answer warning - this is a *very* long thread.

Here is a summary of the key points and links in the second life wiki

And here's a non LL mirror site - just to make sure none of the information is lost

Rather than making us move, LL should be implementing this check it out and vote

If you have your own land there is a freebie note card giver and toy on Xstreet. This is a freebie notecard giver that will let you spread the word about the proposed changes to accounts and accessing content in Second Life.

https://uncensored.xstreetsl.com/modules.php?name=Marketplace&file=item&ItemID=1416611

What they haven't done actually tell people inworld or in any language other than English.

So, set this up in your shop, club or anywhere that you have permission to build and help us spread the word.

You don't have to run a business to be affected by the proposed changes, in one way or another we'll all be affected.

If you are affected or wish to support us, take a picture of you and the toy and post it to the flickr group here: http://www.flickr.com/groups/we_are_adult_content/ If the item is a little racy for you but you still want to show your support with a picture, take a pic of you beside the box it comes in or contact "Couldbe Yue" inworld and she will drop you one of the other protest pics over.

That way both LL and the rest of the world (read media) can see just how many people are affected and not happy that their concerns are being ignored.
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2. Scarlet Letter Hunt



The Scarlet Letter Hunt, SL's adult-themed grid wide treasure hunt started last Saturday April 18 and will run through May 18. You'll need a whole month because as I last heard anyway, 104 shops are participating in this massive orgy of freebies, including BDSM Life and Eye-Catcher. The hunt's organizers have said it's sure to please any taste.

I have been involved in the hunt from day one, and I can tell you that it's an interesting hunt and can be very addictive! I have been hunting from 10pm till 6am - that's how addicting it can become! You've been warned!!

With the Scarlet Letter Hunt, you can join the group, where you can ask for hints from various vendors and from other hunters, but direct directions or cheating is NOT allowed in this hunt. I am very grateful and thankful for this group, because it has helped me a lot in my hunt, and whenever I ask for hints, I get some awesome help from the organisers, the vendors and the other hunters. It is really worth it to join the group! Click on the Scarlet Hunt sign board to get a link to the group.

Click here to get the starting point

See the Scarlet Letter Hunt at this address for more information and updates:

Click here to open the Scarlet Letter Hunt main page

And I CAN confirm for you that what you are looking for is a red letter A. But don't ask me where to find any clues. That would be cheating! See you on the trail!
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3. Puppyplay by Happy Hawkeye



Puppyplay is in RL bdsm not very popular. I really dont see why. It creates a special bond between sub and Dominant. With very little stuff / tools its easy to create a great roleplay, if you can even call it play. For some people its very real.

In general: the sub changes to a puppy/dog and loses its ability to speak and walk. Only crawl, bark and whine, growl and such are allowed. So puppyplay is used to dehumanise and / or humiliate. Because the puppy isn t allowed to speak, and interacts with body language and sounds, a very strong bond is formed between Dominant and sub, because they have to pay really good attention to each other. The gear that can be used is buttplug with tail, paws and muzzle. And of course puppy collar and leash. Except for the collar the stuff is hard to get.

In SL its different. Stuff like muzzle, paws, a puppy hud and skins are fully available. Puppy play in sl is quite common. I have 2 girls that fully play a role as puppy in SL. One only uses the animation hud, and keeps her human form/skin, the other has a muzzle, paws, tail and puppy tongue. She also uses the hud. As in RL too, the bond is very strong. I control the moves and plays they do, command them , whistle them, feed them . I have wicker beds, a kennel, a dog house, bowls, dog cookies etc. Balls to play with.

The stuff is for sale at some shops in sl:
K9 CREATIONS puppyplay
Z. Design

I like puppyplay very much, if the sub is dedicated it creates a real bond. Dependance, created by cutting the chat and IM by the use of RLV. Like a dog allowing them to listen, but nothing more. Using only the hud to communicate with the outside. Growl, whine, sniff, whoof. For me it really is completely different then performing normal D/s play.

If you have any questions, you can always IM me.

Regards, Happy Hawkeye.

If you are interested in writing an article about your experiences for us, or want to use something from your blog for our newsletter, please submit your experiences as Domme, sub, or switch, for publication in future newsletters. Just send a notecard to Roni Scarmon or Cazzy Hax for consideration.
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4. Pick Offer from Eye-Catcher



Constanza Amsterdam has a new offer for anybody who frequents her Eye-Catcher Store in the BDSM Life Sim. Just include Eye-Catcher in your SL Picks and you'll receive special offers each month. This month you'll receive a shabby bear and paddle. Jsut look forthe Free graphic shown here to sign up today!

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5. Naughty Story by Bastet Lyon



he found his beloved kitten, napping so peacefully on her couch. she looks rather sweet there, he thought to himself as he quietly squatted down in front of her. she stirred a little when he slipped his hand into her purple checked dress, and under her bra, finding her nipple and squeezing gently, rolling between his thumb and forefinger. he leaned over her and kissed her neck just below her left ear, never letting off the pressure from her now hard nipple.
"ummmm?", she moaned quietly, insstinctively turning to her pleasure, and her eyes fluttered open. seeing it was master she smiled. His head still at her neck by her ear he whispers sofly, "good afternoon kitten", he kissed her neck twice more and gave her shoulder a gentle bite, "you have five minutes i want you on the bed, no clothes legs spread, understand?"
"um ,yes..." she said seductively, and she pushed him away sitting up using his arm for levarage. "there you go" he assisted her with a little push as she pulled her self off the couch, standing up and dropping her jacket where she once had been sleeping and walking off toward their room, stopping only briefly to pee, sheremoved the rest of her clothes while on the pot and then wiped her self with a baby cloth and hurried off to the bed,
she lay on top of the quilt wondering what he would do to her. the anticipation was always the worst and the best, he didnt make her wait long. suddenly he appeared like out of nowhere she hadnt heard him come in, his stealth was unsettleing. "over here, hands and knees", he said as he stood naked on the side of the bed, his cock rock hard and throbbing. she crawled across the bed to him and before she could look up he had her long blonde hair in his fist shoving her open mouth down on his cock. she almost gagged, but resisted the urge licking his cock from the top to the bottom then sucking her way back up the shaft rolling the head around in her mouth with her tongue when she reached it down the shaft again this time all the way gagging and back up the shaft, she licked down the side and back to his balls sucking each one into her mouth and rolling it around before attending its twin, she slid the now wet ball out of her mouth and licked her way to his asshole where she inserted the tip of her tongue several times, while she held his cock in her fist massaging it up and down up and down as her tongue flicked in and out of his asshole. K"oh my god woman!" he shuddered and grabbed her arm
"turn over" he ordered as he pulled her by the arm, afraid he would spend him self then, he applied a generous amount of lube to his cock and fingered her pussy long enough to loosen her enough for entry, she had an incredibly tight cunt, and he knew if he didnt cool it a minute two thrusts would be about it. and he didnt want thiat he had plans this was not going to be a quickie.
he pressed the tip of his cock to her pink meat and gave a slow gentle push, steady pressure stopping when he felt the muscle groups tighteen giving each ring a chance to relax he would push on to the next till he was buried deep in her, waiting a moment he leaned forward and asked quietly, "kitten, are you doing okay?" only until she nodded her affirmation did he begin his thrusts slow and steady at first, he worked his cock in and out, demanding that she rub it out";you better have that hand on that clit rubbing it out kitten", he smacked her on her ass and it made a loud cracking noise, just to put emphisis on who is the boss and who had better be minding him . she nodded affirmations, so he could see she was compliant he turned her on her side holding one leg up on his shoulder and the otehr around his waist, pulling out and pausing he lay down on the bed next to her letting her catch her breath, he lubed up her asshole and slipped his index finger in up to the knuckle he worked her ass with one then two fingers and finally three, she shuddered and began to beg him "master master! please please can i come? " she was urgent sounding... he could tell she was not going to be able to not come.
not yet kitten, not yet... "pleaseeeeeeeeeeeoh god!!", she couldnt stop it the orgasm flooded over her and she tensed up on his hand, he could feel the waves of muscle contractions as they washed over her body, "what did i say kitten? " he relinquished his displeasure because secretly he was feeling the opposite her pleasure was his too, "oh go ahead" he whispered to her fingers slipping in and out of her ass, he knew this thing would get her off like nothing else, later he would truss her up like a christmas turkey, leaving her to beg his forgiveness for disobeying him and coming before he gave the okay, but that too pleased him, poor little kitten she is damned if she do and damned if she dont he thought,
suddenly he was behind her and two thrusts later his cock was buried to the hilt in her ass
unlike her pussy he knew he had to get in fast or it was more tortureous
she let out a yelp and a cry when he didso
but three thrusts into her ass and she was coming again, he could feel the muscles tighten around his pounding cock, suddenly he withdrew from her throwing limp body up on the bed, he reached down and grabbed a harness, one she had never seen before, buckled the leather strap around her ankles and then crossing them over the top of her tummy and fastening them to the opposite wrist with hand cuffs, once those were in place he slid his cock into her little brown button again pulling it out twice to put it in her mouth finally he turned his now sweat drenched subbe over stabbing at her cunt with his cock, "oh master PLEASE PLWEASE come PLEASE PLEASE MASTER COME IN ME COME IN MY PUSSY PLEASE!",
he could tell at this point the poor kitten was at her limit and her begging him to come made it im possible not to, he felt the pressure building rapidly with each thrust and her pleas for relief and suddenly.....( to be continued) unless it doesnt make you hot, in that case i wont bother lol...

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6. BDSM Slave Auction (by Hornet Lefevre)



It was another exciting enjoyable auction on Saturday. We had a virtual full sim in attendance to see Sedesta and Ashendi be auctioned. I think it is fair to say that bidding was not as phrenetic as usual, and it did take a little while to get going, but there was no doubt that those present saw the experience of Sedesta first hand. Sedesta certainly attracted the true Masters and Mistresses as bidding reached a healthy level. Bidding was again somewhat quieter for Ashendi, and I think it is fair to say that the winning Mistress picked up this lovely, experienced slave for a fantastic bargain.

Without doubt, BDSM Life is attracting quality, experienced slaves who wish to be auctioned. This means that the Masters and Mistresses who do attend get the advantage of picking up a bargain. Do not miss out on this opportunity. Word is spreading fast of the quality on offer at the BDSM Life Slave Auctions, and I urge you all to come along next week and see for yourself what sort of bargains you can pick up.

I'll see you there!

Hornet Lefevre

Hornet Lefevre
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7. Photo Contest



We have some sexy people who are brave enough to put up a picture of themselves that you can vote for, but who are they? See below! :-) They need YOUR votes! :-) Go to BDSM-Life and vote!

Females:

Anya Aries (2)
Baby Anatra (80)
Kore Bravin (1)
Sharra Bravin (8)
Island Girl Biler (6)
Esha Bruun (114 - current leader)
Lynn Hamer (48)
Cazzy Hax (66)
Cahill McCallen (36)
Ellyssia Sexton (27)

Males:
Thomas Aker (13)
Tarl Field (8)
Corvan Nansen (7)
Peter Woody (1)
HB Yokosuka (30 current leader)

So, go on, don't be shy! Take a picture of yourself, show off your sexy and handsome body! *giggle*

$L5000 each for the female and for the male winners. So a lot of money……! Entry is only $50L, and votes cost $10L each or $50L for 6!

Come along to BDSM-Life and enter the photo contest in the Dating Centre! And at the same time, why don't you vote for your favourite picture?

The Photo Contest will run from now to June 1..
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8. Classified and Personal Ads



At BDSM-Life, we have Personal Ads boards where you can put up a personal ad to let people know that you are looking for someone!!!!

Shiva Jumanya says "Male Dominant, real life experience preferred. Please read The Dominant's Creed at http://www.wired-productionz.com/bri.dhe/Library.html to understand what I am looking for, it says it far better than I can. Honesty and reliability is a must, should have at least 6 hours a week in SL to spend with me in order to build the relationship."

Timelord Aeon says "i am 32 years old dom form the uk. im a search for a sub/slave who is sub/slave in rl. aged 20 to 40. who is single in sl and rl.
and will start relationship in sl and then take it to rl."

Please go to the personal ads boards at BDSM-Life, and click on the name to get their notecards.

If you are interested, look for their full information cards in the new Dating Centre & Photo Contest pyramid!

We have plenty of spaces for people to post up on the boards at BDSM-Life. Even better if your picture is up on the boards, we will put your name and details in the newsletter.

Please either IM or send a notecard to Roni Scarmon to let her know if you have a personal ad at BDSM-Life and she will put your personal ad in the newsletter.

What a better way to look for new lovers, new sub/slave, new Mistress/Master!
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9. Events @ BDSM-Life



Monday
12PM - Open Discussion with Cazzy Hax - How to plan a play session (e.g. safety, limits, etc)

Tuesday
1:30PM - Storytelling with Tarl Field

Thursday
12PM till 3 PM - BDSM Classes by Tarl Field - Discipline

Saturday
12PM till 2 PM - Party in the Club with Cazzy Hax as hostess

3PM - Slave Auction with Hornet and Lallie

Sunday
12pm till 3 pm SLT - Restrained Life Class with Tarl Field

Lectures and classes are held in the Lecture Room.

We will update the blog website during the week for events.

If you have any ideas or suggestions for new events, contact Constanza Amsterdam. If you want to lead a class in any topic related to BDSM, contact either Constanza Amsterdam or Tarl Field.
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10. In other news......



The newsletter staff heard rumours that Eye-Catcher and BDSM Life will be participating in a treasure hunt! See the next issue of BDSM Life newsletter for more information.

Having BDSM-life and Eye-Catcher in your Picks on your profiles, will mean that you will get a lovely and genours gift every week. Click on the BDSM-Life Picks sign board every week at the landing point, and for Eye-Catcher, the Picks sign board is near the entrance, near the Lucky Chair. So, why don't you put BDSM-Life and Eye-Catcher in your Picks, put us on the map! :-)

Check out the Eye-Catcher website Consie has been working on!
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Past issues of the BDSM-life newsletter may be found at the website - www.bdsm-lifenewsletter.blogspot.com in case you have missed them.

We also have a newsletter-stand at the landing point at BDSM-Life that your friends can take if they are not a member of the BDSM-Life group. Even better yet, get them to join our group! :-)

Spread the word!

We welcome new ideas or suggestions, or writers for the newsletter! And any comments! Send a notecard to Roni Scarmon or Cazzy Hax!

Thank you!
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Blog: http://bdsm-lifenewsletter.blogspot.com/

Pictures by Cazzy Hax, Happy Hawkeye, Roni Scarmon

Sunday, 19 April 2009

Weekly Kinky Newsletter Issue 14 Apr 20 - 26

Newsletter for BDSM-Life!



In this newsletter:

1. Scarlet Letter Hunt
2. Bondage Awards Results Being Tallied
3. DragonStory by Tarl Part 2
4. Cazzy's journey - the beginning
5. BDSM-Life Slave Auctions
6. Photo Contest
7. Classifieds and Personal Ads
8. Events @ BDSM-Life
9. In other news.....
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1. Scarlet Letter Hunt



The Scarlet Letter Hunt, SL's adult-themed grid wide treasure hunt started Saturday April 18 and will run through May 18. You'll need a whole month because 94 shops are participating in this massive orgy of freebies, including BDSM Life and Eye-Catcher.. The hunt's organizers have said it's sure to please any taste.

I have been involved in the hunt from day one, and I can tell you that it's an interesting hunt and can be very addictive! I have been hunting from 10pm till 6am - that's how addicting it can become! You've been warned!!

With the Scarlet Letter Hunt, you can join the group, where you can ask for hints from various vendors and from other hunters, but direct directions or cheating is NOT allowed in this hunt. I am very grateful and thankful for this group, because it have helped me a lot in my hunt, and whenever I ask for hints, I get some awesome help from the organisers, the vendors and the other hunters. It is really worth it to join the group! Click on the Scarlet Hunt sign board to get a link to the group.

Start at this location:



See the Scarlet Letter Hunt at this address for more information and updates:

Click here to open the Scarlet Letter Hunt main page

And I CAN confirm for you that what you are looking for is a red letter A. But don't ask me where to find any clues. That would be cheating! See you on the trail!
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2. Bondage Awards Results Being Tallied



Voting for the 2009 Bondage Awards has closed. A week of double-checking is required before the winners will be known. Results were posted Sunday, April 19th. We're proud to say that BDSM Life came in 10th place. You can see it here

Thanks to everybody who voted for BDSM-Life.com for your support. And next year we'll place even higher!
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3. DragonStory (by Tarl Field)



Part Two (contuined from the last issue):

He sees that the big dragon is not a danger to them, and so he lays his chest on the side of the dragon, feeling very nervous but not scared as she was not being threatening and then she suddenly pushes him back so he falls over slightly knocking his head on the rock, but it was not a rock at all, it was an egg in which the small dragon hatched out of. He looks at it and suddenly understands what the dragon wanted to know. The dragon was trying to ask, “Who hatched the egg?” and he tries to explain that they thought it was a rock and took shelter behind it.

The big dragon looks at the hatched egg, and then gently pushes the girls out in the large part and almost like a warm dagger through butter frees the girls from their chains. Now after a while it dawns on the man, whom the dragon is talking to them by thoughts, and so he tries to think his answers and it works! And he thinks the whole story to why they are there and the big dragon suddenly rushes out a thought so strong that it knocks the man over and the thought is simple. The big dragon tells the man in thoughts; “Go to your town and care for my baby, I will return” and so he obeys the dragon. Actually, the man could not believe that the big dragon could do it alone, but he does as he is asked.

When they have made their way, as the girls can walk freely now they run to the city, the people notice the small dragon in one of the soldiers’ arms and they get frightened and step back from the soldiers and the girls, staring as they walk toward the city.

As they arrive at the gates of the city, they are not allowed to go into the city because of the baby dragon and so they have to wait outside. But it takes a week and during that week the baby dragon has learned to chase rats and other small animals. The soldiers and the girls looked after the baby dragon, while they wait for the mother to return. One day, there was a dark cloud over the city and the group looked up to see a group of dragons, flying over them. One dragon, almost blinding the light across the city and the group, dives down and lands very gracefully and walks towards the group with the baby dragon. They see that it is the baby dragon’s mother and they could not believe it as the big dragon is not black anymore, she is almost golden.

The man, who was holding the baby dragon stepped forward, and handed it over to the big dragon. In return, the big golden dragon roared; “Thank you for your help with my baby and in return to show goodwill, we will help you fight your enemies”

And so the day becomes night, and the dragons which was circling in the sky, flew down and landed, there were 20 dragons in total, including the big golden dragon. Eight of the dragons have already chosen the riders, but the rest of dragons did not have riders, and so they stepped forward and asked the soldiers to join them, and become their riders. The soldiers agreed and the girls made saddles for the dragons to wear and to carry the riders. Now all the dragons have their riders, but the girls are alone, so the soldiers and the dragons decide to take the girls along with them.

The dragons took to the skies and they flew to battle.

What happened next was something that the soldiers and the girls swore never to tell anyone, but the battle was won, and they return, losing one dragon and one soldier. Later, as the dragon died, another dragon was born.

The big golden dragon stepped forward to ask the soldiers and girls for one more favour, to help look after her baby dragon, and to teach it how to fly. The group agreed and they took the baby dragon, as the dragons flew away. It took years for the group to teach the baby dragon, and he grew slowly, learnt to how to use his wings, and one day, he finally had the power to fly to the skies, leaving the group behind.

They did not see the baby dragon, which was not a baby anymore, for days, weeks and years.

But it is told all over the city that the dragons, along with the baby dragon, have circled over the city, in silence, looking over the city, with the group of soldiers and girls making home in the city. They look to the skies, occasionally, wondering what have happened to the dragons, and whether if they will see them again………..

The End………….?

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4. Cazzy's journey - the beginning (by Cazzy Hax)



I cheated a little bit, and copied & pasted from my blog, thought this might be interesting to you folks to see how I started out at the beginning. Hope you enjoy!

(2007)
I have been thinking about what being a submissive means to me.

Before posting this in my blog, I have been thinking about it very seriously. And I feel that this is what being a submissive means to me.

I believe that I am a naturally submissive who have a desire to please and to serve her Dom in most of the aspects of everyday life. However, I do not know if I could serve in a domestic way, i.e. doing the housework, doing the ironing and doing the washing as I am useless at the housework *laughs* but IF a Dom requires for me to do the housework, I suppose we will have to come to a compromise where I might be best in areas of housework, and might get someone in to do other areas, but this is just my view, who knows, this might change within time and if I am in a D/s relationship, in which that I am not.

I feel that I would like to be lead and guided by a Dom in the bedroom and outside the bedroom, i.e. domestic serves as such as making breakfast (within limits! I am not good at cooking); organising his everyday schedules, etc. I am a very organised person (at times) and could help the Dom in the office, if he does require it and I would like to do little tasks and assignments for him. I dream of this everyday and I hope to find a Dom who is suitable, who likes to look after his little submissive, have a desire for spankings (not for punishments *grins*), to explore and push my limitations, but at the same time, encourages me to achieve my dreams and to be more confident (I am shy in real life, when meeting new faces for the first time.)

In my life, I am an ambitious person, who wants to achieve her dreams in the terms of my working life, I am a tutor, and I hope to become a lecturer at university in the future. And I hope to find a Dom who won’t stop me in achieving my dreams, however I do have dreams to travel so hopefully the Dom will travel with me.

So, my first thought. Who knows, this could change within time.

(2009)

2 years later, it have been a journey of self-exploring, and looking deeply into myself, and like most of you know already, I am not a submissive, but a switch, and is loving it. I always say this: A journey is best travelled, when you learn new things, explore things and realise and find new things about yourself, and that your journey will never end.........

Thank you.

If you are interested in writing an article about your experiences for us, or want to use something from your blog for our newsletter, please submit your experiences as Domme, sub, or switch, for publication in future newsletters. Just send a notecard to Roni Scarmon or Cazzy Hax for consideration.
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5. BDSM Slave Auction (by Hornet Lefevre)



We weren't able to have an auction last saturday as RL got in the way. But please be assured that normal service will be resumed next Saturday. BDSM Life Slave Auctions will be back once again offering the very best slaves who are committed to the cause. We already have two outstanding applicants ready to go to auction, both of whom are experienced in both RL and SL and are totally committed to their roles as slaves looking for Masters and Mistresses

We start as usual at 3.00pm SLT and I look forward to seeing you all there.

BDSM Life brings the very best slaves to auction, and offers them in the most exciting and enjoyable auction atmosphere in SL

Hornet Lefevre
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6. Photo Contest



We have some sexy people who are brave enough to put up a picture of themselves that you can vote for, but who are they? See below! :-) They need YOUR votes! :-) Go to BDSM-Life and vote!

Females:

Anya Aries (1)
Baby Anatra (74)
Kore Bravin (1)
Sharra Bravin (8)
Island Girl Bravin (6)
Esha Bruun (102 - current leader)
Lynn Hamer (48)
Cazzy Hax (66)
Cahill McCallen (36)
Ellyssia Sexton (27)

Males:
Thomas Aker (13 - current leader)
Tarl Field (7)
Corvan Nansen (7)

So, go on, don't be shy! Take a picture of yourself, show off your sexy and handsome body! *giggle*

$L5000 each for the female and for the male winners. So a lot of money……! Entry is only $50L, and votes cost $10L each or $50L for 6!

Come along to BDSM-Life and enter the photo contest in the Dating Centre! And at the same time, why don't you vote for your favourite picture?

The Photo Contest will run from now to June 1..
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7. Classified and Personal Ads



At BDSM-Life, we have Personal Ads boards where you can put up a personal ad to let people know that you are looking for someone!!!!

Aeonflux Llewellyn writes "Hello, this girl has a good imagination and is highly literate. She appreciates seduction and romance but can respond eagerly to other approaches as well. This girl is wired to please and wants to make you feel like she has been longing and aching for you and only you forever. after that pleasing you in what ever way you want is what she wants too. come, let this girl make you feel like the most special person she has ever been with. Her hard limits are scat, animals, kids, blood, and extreme pain. If it turns you on, she can get into most anything else. Please give her a chance to serve you, sir."

Shiva Jumanya says "Male Dominant, real life experience preferred. Please read The Dominant's Creed at http://www.wired-productionz.com/bri.dhe/Library.html to understand what I am looking for, it says it far better than I can. Honesty and reliability is a must, should have at least 6 hours a week in SL to spend with me in order to build the relationship."

Timelord Aeon says "i am 32 years old dom form the uk. im a search for a sub/slave who is sub/slave in rl. aged 20 to 40. who is single in sl and rl.
and will start relationship in sl and then take it to rl."

Please go to the personal ads boards at BDSM-Life, and click on the name to get their notecards.

If you are interested, look for their full information cards in the new Dating Centre & Photo Contest pyramid!

We have plenty of spaces for people to post up on the boards at BDSM-Life. Even better if your picture is up on the boards, we will put your name and details in the newsletter.

Please either IM or send a notecard to Roni Scarmon to let her know if you have a personal ad at BDSM-Life and she will put your personal ad in the newsletter.

What a better way to look for new lovers, new sub/slave, new Mistress/Master!
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8. Events @ BDSM-Life


Monday
12PM - Open Discussion with Cazzy Hax - BDSM toys and how to use them (RL & SL)

Tuesday
12PM - Storytelling with Tarl Field

Thursday
12PM till 3 PM - BDSM Classes by Tarl Field - Dominance

Saturday
12PM till 2 PM - Party in the Club with Cazzy Hax as hostess

3PM - Slave Auction with Hornet and Lallie

Sunday
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Dominance - April 16, 2009

[2009/04/16 13:00] Tarl Field: Okay lets get started... smiles
[2009/04/16 13:01] Tarl Field: Todays subject is dominance which can be physical and mental
[2009/04/16 13:01] Tarl Field: I personally prefer a mix of the two

[2009/04/16 13:01] Tarl Field: To my help to demonstrate the physical part i have my girl melinda which is physically restrained
[2009/04/16 13:01] Tarl Field: Or had as she seemed to crash
[2009/04/16 13:02] Dionysos Ulrik: their goes youre dominance ...
[2009/04/16 13:02] Dionysos Ulrik smiles
[2009/04/16 13:02] Tarl Field: Any way the physical dominance is when you touch or restrain your sub with phyical strenght or physical restraints like rope or cuffs
[2009/04/16 13:02] Dionysos Ulrik: we cant beat the evil harse Masters of sl
[2009/04/16 13:02] Tarl Field: wb melinda)
[2009/04/16 13:03] Melinda Waffle nods
[2009/04/16 13:04] Tarl Field: Now besides how she is restrained what other ways of physical restraints can you think off
[2009/04/16 13:04] Dionysos Ulrik: blindfold
[2009/04/16 13:04] Lilystarre Darkstone: leather cuffs,Sir ,,,
[2009/04/16 13:04] Bastet Lyon: gag
[2009/04/16 13:04] Zeldan Blackburn: suspend
[2009/04/16 13:04] Tarl Field: all good
[2009/04/16 13:04] Dionysos Ulrik: ear mufflers
[2009/04/16 13:04] Tarl Field: ahh suspension is always fun
[2009/04/16 13:04] Lilystarre Darkstone: traditional hand cuffs as well
[2009/04/16 13:05] Tarl Field: ahh but make sure the handcuffs are doublelocked
[2009/04/16 13:05] Tarl Field: so they dont cut of the bloodflow by mistake
[2009/04/16 13:05] Lilystarre Darkstone: ahh,, yes Sir *smiles
[2009/04/16 13:05] Zeldan Blackburn: in rl pinch test
[2009/04/16 13:05] Zeldan Blackburn: the back of the hand
[2009/04/16 13:06] Tarl Field: Zelda thats a very correct and fast way to know
[2009/04/16 13:06] Tarl Field: But if your restrained as melinda is i cant check her hands
[2009/04/16 13:06] Zeldan Blackburn: nods
[2009/04/16 13:06] Tarl Field: I would have to ask her if her hands are going numb
[2009/04/16 13:06] Lilystarre Darkstone: nodding softly as she listens
[2009/04/16 13:06] Tarl Field: And trust she will tell me the truth
[2009/04/16 13:07] Tarl Field: Even if she is helpless in her restraint she can always get my attention and signal that she needs a brake
[2009/04/16 13:07] Tarl Field: break
[2009/04/16 13:08] Tarl Field: And as she does so i can do a few things. I can release her directly, or tease her by playing stupid and not understanding but that demands a lot of trust and a very good knowledge about how melinda works as a sub...
[2009/04/16 13:09] Tarl Field: And she knows very well that as my girl she has no rights as a sub...
[2009/04/16 13:09] Tarl Field: But in one way she has the total power
[2009/04/16 13:09] Tarl Field: Why?
[2009/04/16 13:09] Dionysos Ulrik: safeword
[2009/04/16 13:09] Tarl Field: true
[2009/04/16 13:09] Dionysos Ulrik: she decides how far you take her in the end
[2009/04/16 13:09] Lilystarre Darkstone: her submission itself,Sir
[2009/04/16 13:10] Tarl Field: both of you are right
[2009/04/16 13:10] Tarl Field: I can conrol her totally within the limits we agreed on when we started...
[2009/04/16 13:10] Lilystarre Darkstone smiles** because without giving You the gift of her submission, You cannot Dominate to begin with,Sir,, *soft soft smile
[2009/04/16 13:11] Tarl Field removes melindas gag but whispers that she is not allowed to speak
[2009/04/16 13:11] Tarl Field: very true
[2009/04/16 13:11] Tarl Field: And one of the biggest gifts you can recive is just that her submission
[2009/04/16 13:11] Dionysos Ulrik nods
[2009/04/16 13:11] Tarl Field: But with that comes a lot of trust that i wont miss use her trust
[2009/04/16 13:12] Lilystarre Darkstone: ,,,, and it is a gift Sir (something that "wanna be" Doms tend to over look *smiles*
[2009/04/16 13:12] Tarl Field: now as you saw i ungagged her and told her not to speak
[2009/04/16 13:12] Tarl Field: thats a mental dominantion
[2009/04/16 13:13] Tarl Field: She could have said thank you Master and then be silent but she knows what i expect of her
[2009/04/16 13:14] Tarl Field: Now to return to the physical dominance a part from the restraints she is wearing i can hold her hair and make her kneel and even restrain her more
[2009/04/16 13:14] Tarl Field: But would she remain in one place even if she was not restrained and only ordered to wait laying spread out in the bed.
[2009/04/16 13:14] Tarl Field: And melinda you may speak now...
[2009/04/16 13:15] Melinda Waffle: thx master
[2009/04/16 13:15] Melinda Waffle: hi all
[2009/04/16 13:15] Lovlee Destiny: **smiles**
[2009/04/16 13:15] Dionysos Ulrik smiles to melinda
[2009/04/16 13:15] Tarl Field: so which do you think effects a submissive the most a physical dominantion or a mental?
[2009/04/16 13:16] Dionysos Ulrik: mental in the end
[2009/04/16 13:16] Lovlee Destiny: mental
[2009/04/16 13:16] STEFANY Stipe bows head "the mental sir"
[2009/04/16 13:16] Lilystarre Darkstone whispers,agreeing* the mental aspect Sir
[2009/04/16 13:16] Tarl Field: It would seam all are going for the mental side
[2009/04/16 13:16] nova Coba: Depends on where you are playing RL or SL and the players.
[2009/04/16 13:16] Killian Sandalwood: mental
[2009/04/16 13:16] Tarl Field: Nova in both aspects.... smiles
[2009/04/16 13:17] Tarl Field: Why do you think the mental part is so important
[2009/04/16 13:17] Lovlee Destiny: because mental is completly bu choice
[2009/04/16 13:17] Killian Sandalwood: but depends on how slave is conditioned
[2009/04/16 13:17] STEFANY Stipe: mental is pure commitment sir
[2009/04/16 13:17] Zeldan Blackburn: nods but mental depends on complete honesty from the sub they have to let you inside their head
[2009/04/16 13:17] Tarl Field: A very good point Killian
[2009/04/16 13:17] Lovlee Destiny: physical u are constricted... mental is aompletly by desire
[2009/04/16 13:18] Tarl Field: And very true
[2009/04/16 13:18] Dionysos Ulrik: in cufs you have no choice to stay in that posiotion . mental cuffs you are youre own prisioner and guard
[2009/04/16 13:18] Tarl Field: The trust most be complete in a bdsm relationship
[2009/04/16 13:18] Tarl Field: Now for an example
[2009/04/16 13:18] Lilystarre Darkstone whispers* nodding as she agrees* t's a matter of committment and devotion,Sir --again, much Trust is at issue as well
[2009/04/16 13:18] Tarl Field: I tell melinda to lay in bed dressed in say her bodystocking
[2009/04/16 13:19] Killian Sandalwood: but some of that desire comes from how the Dom has conditioned the slave
[2009/04/16 13:19] Tarl Field: BUt she hears something that would indicate say a waterleak.
[2009/04/16 13:19] Tarl Field: should she go up and check and call for help or fix it herself and lay back and wait.
[2009/04/16 13:20] Lilystarre Darkstone: she should wait,Sir
[2009/04/16 13:20] Tarl Field: and tell me what happend when i come home
[2009/04/16 13:20] Dionysos Ulrik: call for help i supose
[2009/04/16 13:20] Kaddan Yue: call for help it might endanger her
[2009/04/16 13:20] STEFANY Stipe: call for help sir?
[2009/04/16 13:20] nova Coba: No I would take care of it, and take my punishment when master came home.
[2009/04/16 13:20] Lovlee Destiny: depends on the relationship and knowing the Dom it would be a personal choice
[2009/04/16 13:20] Tarl Field: Actually thats up to every dominant to decied how he or she wants their sub
[2009/04/16 13:20] Killian Sandalwood: try to please you by fixing then wait and tell you when you arive home
[2009/04/16 13:21] Tarl Field: I think melinda knows me well enough to answer how i would want her to act
[2009/04/16 13:21] Melinda Waffle: i think i should have a look
[2009/04/16 13:21] Melinda Waffle: some things are more important
[2009/04/16 13:21] Lilystarre Darkstone whispers* were it herself, she would make an effort to reach You,say by phone to alert You to the situation and to see what You have her do,,Sir
[2009/04/16 13:21] Tarl Field: lily thats also a way to do it
[2009/04/16 13:22] Tarl Field: As you contact the dom to inform whats happend and asking instructions...
[2009/04/16 13:22] Tarl Field: Both ways would have been allowed under me
[2009/04/16 13:22] Lilystarre Darkstone nods softly,thoughtfully* yes SIr
[2009/04/16 13:22] Tarl Field: As a waterleak can grow big in a short time if your unlucky
[2009/04/16 13:23] Tarl Field: And of course if the house caught on fire i would not expect her to wait in the flames
[2009/04/16 13:23] Lovlee Destiny: **smiles**
[2009/04/16 13:23] Melinda Waffle: omg
[2009/04/16 13:23] Dionysos Ulrik: now is a waterleak something that dont happen likey . but the doorbel or so . is to be ignored i find
[2009/04/16 13:23] Ge Hermans: at least the waterleak will come in handy when its on fire
[2009/04/16 13:23] Tarl Field: well melinda some might expect their subs to wait no matter what
[2009/04/16 13:23] Melinda Waffle: Dont meet trouble halfway master
[2009/04/16 13:24] Tarl Field: No melinda knowing you as i do i know you would try and put the fire out...
[2009/04/16 13:24] Melinda Waffle nods
[2009/04/16 13:24] Melinda Waffle: but better no fire at all
[2009/04/16 13:24] Melinda Waffle: and no water leak
[2009/04/16 13:24] Tarl Field: But thats the point dominance is not just commanding and obeying
[2009/04/16 13:25] Tarl Field: You need to adjust to the sub you have..
[2009/04/16 13:25] Killian Sandalwood: that is so very true
[2009/04/16 13:25] Dionysos Ulrik: its always about the variables, things that you dont aspect
[2009/04/16 13:25] Tarl Field: Now just for fun would you call it a mental dominantion to make a sub to say wear a short skirt without underwear
[2009/04/16 13:26] Lilystarre Darkstone nods softly* yes,,, and being prepared for contingencies as well *soft smile
[2009/04/16 13:26] Dionysos Ulrik: in a way yes
[2009/04/16 13:26] Lilystarre Darkstone: in a manner of speaking, yes Sir
[2009/04/16 13:26] Lovlee Destiny: I think that would be...
[2009/04/16 13:26] Lovlee Destiny: she is trying to please you
[2009/04/16 13:26] Killian Sandalwood: if she is the shy type to expose her body in public --- yes
[2009/04/16 13:27] Lilystarre Darkstone: or she has been issued a directive,prohibiting the wearing of underwear,,,
[2009/04/16 13:27] Tarl Field: Your all correct.... smiles
[2009/04/16 13:28] Melinda Waffle: sorry all rl calls for me
[2009/04/16 13:28] Tarl Field: its amental control as she can choose to ignore it and i would accept that under some set oif events....
[2009/04/16 13:28] Melinda Waffle: whish you all a good lesson
[2009/04/16 13:28] Dionysos Ulrik: take care melinda
[2009/04/16 13:28] Melinda gives Tarl a sweet kiss.
[2009/04/16 13:28] Melinda Waffle: mmmmmmmmmm
[2009/04/16 13:28] Tarl Field: take care my girl
[2009/04/16 13:28] Melinda Waffle: thx master
[2009/04/16 13:28] Melinda Waffle: take care also
[2009/04/16 13:29] Lovlee Destiny: bye melinda
[2009/04/16 13:29] Melinda Waffle waves
[2009/04/16 13:30] Tarl Field: Now as you see she has to leave and i accept that and release er even if i could have kept her locked up.
[2009/04/16 13:30] Tarl Field: I know the most important restraint is not visable
[2009/04/16 13:31] Tarl Field: Its inside her and around her heart...
[2009/04/16 13:31] Melinda Waffle waves again
[2009/04/16 13:31] Melinda Waffle: bye all
[2009/04/16 13:31] Dionysos Ulrik: bye melinda
[2009/04/16 13:31] Lilystarre Darkstone: ... her desire to serve *soft smile
[2009/04/16 13:31] STEFANY Stipe: gb melinda
[2009/04/16 13:32] Tarl Field: And if you have any questions so far let me know
[2009/04/16 13:32] Dionysos Ulrik shakes his head
[2009/04/16 13:32] Lovlee Destiny: **smiles**
[2009/04/16 13:33] Tarl Field: Let me ask you this which is the most important part in dominance
[2009/04/16 13:33] Tarl Field: Physical or mental
[2009/04/16 13:33] Lilystarre Darkstone softly shakes her head,her eyes shimmering softly
[2009/04/16 13:33] Lovlee Destiny: mental
[2009/04/16 13:34] Bastet Lyon: mental
[2009/04/16 13:34] STEFANY Stipe: mental sir
[2009/04/16 13:34] Dionysos Ulrik: mental as well
[2009/04/16 13:34] STEFANY Stipe: mental involves more trust and commitment sir
[2009/04/16 13:34] Lovlee Destiny: Mental is pure desire to please...
[2009/04/16 13:34] Lilystarre Darkstone: she would think the mental,Sir -- nodding,agreeing*
[2009/04/16 13:34] Tarl Field: Agree so why is there a physical aspect to it if it seems like the mental part is the most important part
[2009/04/16 13:35] Dionysos Ulrik: sometimes to focus more one a certain bodypart
[2009/04/16 13:35] Killian Sandalwood: physical re-enforces the mental
[2009/04/16 13:35] nova Coba: It doubles the input to the brain.
[2009/04/16 13:35] STEFANY Stipe: the psycial ties in with the mental..without mental there is no psycial sir
[2009/04/16 13:35] Lilystarre Darkstone: as a physical reminder, Sir,,,of the sub/slaves place
[2009/04/16 13:35] Lovlee Destiny: Physical is outward proof to every one,
[2009/04/16 13:35] Leesa Back: the physical to a submissive / slave can be used to enforce the mental.
[2009/04/16 13:35] Tarl Field: two good points
[2009/04/16 13:35] Dionysos Ulrik: it helps a sub also to concetrate better
[2009/04/16 13:36] Tarl Field: without mental there is no physical and the physical is a proof to the outside world
[2009/04/16 13:36] Tarl Field: Lets break the first one down
[2009/04/16 13:36] Sylestra Parkin is Online
[2009/04/16 13:36] Tarl Field: For things to become physical you need trust and not just the trust you feel for a girlfriend or boyfriend
[2009/04/16 13:37] Tarl Field: But a much deeper trust as you willb e laying your life in the hand of some one else
[2009/04/16 13:37] Dionysos Ulrik nods
[2009/04/16 13:37] Lilystarre Darkstone: nodding as she listens
[2009/04/16 13:37] Tarl Field: And thats the mental part allowing some one to take control of you mentally
[2009/04/16 13:38] Tarl Field: And once you reach the stage that you trust each other fully you can start playing in the physical area...
[2009/04/16 13:38] Lilystarre Darkstone lifts her hand, a little shyly,,,
[2009/04/16 13:38] Tarl Field: Lily?
[2009/04/16 13:39] Dionysos Ulrik looks to lily if she was asking for a toiletbreak
[2009/04/16 13:40] Lilystarre Darkstone smiles,whispers* she agrees and understands that Your belief is mental trust preceeds physical trust,,, -- for this reason, one of her most strident and hard limits states that for no reason,shall she be bound in any fashion during a "first Meet" scene,,,
[2009/04/16 13:40] Tarl Field: Lily a very good rule actually
[2009/04/16 13:40] Lilystarre Darkstone: very very importrant to her own sense of safety, Sir
[2009/04/16 13:41] Tarl Field: It might surprise you lily that i usually dont tie some one up in a club unless i know them a little before hand...
[2009/04/16 13:41] Lilystarre Darkstone: and if He (the Dom) objects,,well,,, He knows where the door is SIr (respectfully, of course**
[2009/04/16 13:41] Bastet Lyon: i second lilys rule
[2009/04/16 13:41] Bastet Lyon: one i follow stricktly
[2009/04/16 13:42] Lilystarre Darkstone: ohh yes Sir,, *nods softly* she has RL Friends who play regularly in such a club ,,, and He would agree with You Sir
[2009/04/16 13:42] Tarl Field: Actually lily if a dom cant accept your rule you have no need to tell them to get lost in a nice manner how ever it looks better if you do...
[2009/04/16 13:42] Lilystarre Darkstone smiles to Bastet** thank You,,, smiles
[2009/04/16 13:42] Bastet Lyon: be safe first
[2009/04/16 13:42] Bastet Lyon: that is number one rule
[2009/04/16 13:42] Dionysos Ulrik nods
[2009/04/16 13:42] Tarl Field: Thats why the saying in bdsm goes safe, sane and consentual
[2009/04/16 13:43] Killian Sandalwood: SSC
[2009/04/16 13:43] Tarl Field: How ever if you know the girl you can scare them a little
[2009/04/16 13:43] Lilystarre Darkstone whispers* she wanted to ask You Sir ,,, are You familiar with RACK?
[2009/04/16 13:43] Tarl Field: Risk assesment
[2009/04/16 13:43] Tarl Field: i forget the rest
[2009/04/16 13:43] Killian Sandalwood: risk accepted consentual kink
[2009/04/16 13:43] Lilystarre Darkstone: yes,,, Consentual Kink,,she thinks
[2009/04/16 13:43] Bastet Lyon: actually before i allow my self to be dommed i watch him carefully for a good while to see how his decisio making and his responsibility levels are
[2009/04/16 13:43] Lilystarre Darkstone: laughing soflty
[2009/04/16 13:43] Tarl Field: right
[2009/04/16 13:44] Tarl Field: But they do mean basically the same
[2009/04/16 13:44] Bastet Lyon: does he anger easily
[2009/04/16 13:44] Bastet Lyon: how does he prioritize
[2009/04/16 13:44] Killian Sandalwood: the second being a bit more edge than the first
[2009/04/16 13:44] Bastet Lyon: does he get jealous that sort of thing
[2009/04/16 13:44] Lilystarre Darkstone listens quietly to Bastet ,, nodding
[2009/04/16 13:44] Tarl Field: A good way of doing things bastet
[2009/04/16 13:45] Tarl Field: How ever we al know that sometimes we just feel a natural trust even after a short meeting
[2009/04/16 13:45] Tarl Field: It cant be explained its just there sometimes
[2009/04/16 13:45] Lilystarre Darkstone smiles softly, nodding with memory
[2009/04/16 13:45] Bastet Lyon: true the "gut" feeling
[2009/04/16 13:45] Dionysos Ulrik: thats a nice thing . but you can also be tricked at that by the other party
[2009/04/16 13:46] Tarl Field: How ever doing it that way does pose some intresting questions
[2009/04/16 13:46] Bastet Lyon: thats my first cue then i start the observing
[2009/04/16 13:46] Adenah Handayani is Offline
[2009/04/16 13:46] Bastet Lyon: i always follow my rules to keep me safe
[2009/04/16 13:46] Bastet Lyon: gut feelings or not
[2009/04/16 13:46] Tarl Field: If you get a gut feeling you need to build that on facts before doing something more serious...
[2009/04/16 13:46] Dionysos Ulrik: very wise bastet
[2009/04/16 13:46] Lovlee Destiny: gut feelings can be misleading soetimes.... ;(
[2009/04/16 13:47] Bastet Lyon: agreed
[2009/04/16 13:47] Lovlee Destiny: like a kick in the gut
[2009/04/16 13:47] Lovlee Destiny: **smiles**
[2009/04/16 13:47] Tarl Field: Som dominants are very good at showing a very nice outer side
[2009/04/16 13:47] Tarl Field: some
[2009/04/16 13:47] Tarl Field: Sorry think i got sidetracked into safety as always
[2009/04/16 13:48] nova Coba raises hand
[2009/04/16 13:48] Tarl Field: No matter if your the dom or the sub in a dominant relationship safety always comes first
[2009/04/16 13:48] Tarl Field: Nova?
[2009/04/16 13:48] nova Coba: I have Sir witnesses at private play parties some very tough slaves take some high levels of pain play (the triple zipper witnesses still in my mind.) Obviously for those players pain is an important part of the play.
[2009/04/16 13:48] Lovlee Destiny: Some tend me be quite loving and caring a generous, then when u wear the collar then get sidetracked, and u seem to be less important.. what do u do then?
[2009/04/16 13:49] Tarl Field: True for some pain is their wau of getting the release of the endorfines that makes them feel good
[2009/04/16 13:49] Tarl Field: Now when it comes to pain its a paradox
[2009/04/16 13:50] Dionysos Ulrik: i believe a lot of parties and clubs are more about lust then the beauty that submission can be for e D
[2009/04/16 13:50] Dionysos Ulrik: e=a
[2009/04/16 13:50] Tarl Field: Pain will release adranelin and endorfines which is the bodyƂ´s chemicals to make you feel good...
[2009/04/16 13:50] Tarl Field: dion i agree
[2009/04/16 13:51] Tarl Field: In the club its about showing of your sub...
[2009/04/16 13:52] Tarl Field: But a club is also a good way to get to know a dom if he or she is a member in that club
[2009/04/16 13:52] Bastet Lyon: to me it seems like a power play between the doms
[2009/04/16 13:52] Tarl Field: As you will get a lot of info about the person from his or her friends
[2009/04/16 13:52] Dionysos Ulrik nods and sighs
[2009/04/16 13:53] Tarl Field: i will tell you about what happend to me when i went to a club with my girlfriend at that time
[2009/04/16 13:53] Lilystarre Darkstone: perhaps as well from that One's sub/slave as well
[2009/04/16 13:53] Lilystarre Darkstone: smiles
[2009/04/16 13:53] STEFANY Stipe raises hand quietly
[2009/04/16 13:53] Tarl Field: I went with her and gave a our common friend a ride to the party
[2009/04/16 13:53] Tarl Field: Stefany?
[2009/04/16 13:53] STEFANY Stipe: when it comes to something your master wants you to do but ur not comfortable with but you want to please him..
[2009/04/16 13:53] STEFANY Stipe: what should you do?
[2009/04/16 13:54] Tarl Field: Stefany can you give me a more exact example?
[2009/04/16 13:54] STEFANY Stipe: like walking around outside fully naked sir
[2009/04/16 13:56] Tarl Field: well thats not so bad the big problem with that is that one: you will risk getting arrested, two if you feel its to much for you remember this if your dom truelly cares you can get him or her to understand and respect it. How ever you might get a spanking for not doing as told...
[2009/04/16 13:56] STEFANY Stipe: understood sir ...thank you
[2009/04/16 13:56] Dionysos Ulrik: back to youre story pleae Tarl
[2009/04/16 13:56] Tarl Field: Now since i came with two girls some doms looked at me with envy
[2009/04/16 13:57] Tarl Field: But iw as there to go with my gf and i also acted as a safetrope for our friend
[2009/04/16 13:57] Dionysos Ulrik nods
[2009/04/16 13:57] Tarl Field: She was visitng the club for the first time
[2009/04/16 13:58] Tarl Field: So of course i wanted her to have fun without getting hazzeled by other single doms
[2009/04/16 13:58] Tarl Field: Now here is the fun part i some how ended up being 2 other subs safetylines
[2009/04/16 13:58] Tarl Field: and one of those subs was a guy...lol
[2009/04/16 13:58] Lovlee Destiny: **smiles**
[2009/04/16 13:58] nova Coba: :) Not umcommon
[2009/04/16 13:59] Dionysos Ulrik: first time in a club can be scary . even for a D
[2009/04/16 13:59] Sammi Loire is Online
[2009/04/16 13:59] Tarl Field: Now i am not into guys but he asked in a way that i could not say no and tiold him i would be his help if he needed it
[2009/04/16 14:00] Tarl Field: Now this was a good club and all respected each other but i would have interacted to stop anything that would risk hurting the one i was protecting
[2009/04/16 14:00] Tarl Field: Although the girl thatw as with me and my gf was not all that happy with me... grins
[2009/04/16 14:00] nova Coba: TY for the clas
[2009/04/16 14:00] Tarl Field: But that was her own fault she asked me to lace her corset tightly...laugh
[2009/04/16 14:01] Dionysos Ulrik grins
[2009/04/16 14:01] Tarl Field: And your welcome nova
[2009/04/16 14:01] Tarl Field: And thank you all for coming
[2009/04/16 14:01] Dionysos Ulrik: thank you Tarl . i love these classes
[2009/04/16 14:01] Tarl Field: this will be posted when its cleaned up

Sunday, 12 April 2009

Weekly Kinky Newsletter Issue 13 Apr 13 - 19

Newsletter for BDSM-Life!



In this newsletter:

1. Highlighted Store - Eye-Catcher Fashion Show
2. Bondage Awards Second Stage Voting
3. BDSM-Life Slave Auctions
4. Story by Tarl
5. Domme/sub/switch Corner
6. Photo Contest
7. Classifieds and Personal Ads
8. Events @ BDSM-Life
9. In other news.....
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1. Store Highlight - Eye-Catcher Fashion Show



The Eye-Catcher Fashion Show held on Saturday, April 12 was a HUGE success. Turn out was phenomenal - the sim was packed with people. Qudex Coronet was on hand to introduce each of the models and describe the clothes worn. Cybercat Bekkers was present to take photographs for Spank magazine. He graciously agreed to provide the BDSM Life Newsletter team with copies, which may be seen below.

Constanza Amsterdam, proprietor of Eye-Catcher and owner of the BDSM-Life sim introduced the show.

First on the runway was delicious Deanna McBride dressed in Eye-Catcher's pretty pink Mariposa Silks and matching fetish ballet boots, (available separately). Mariposa means butterfly in Spanish, and you can quickly see why these silks FORM Eye-Catcher’s Mariposa collection. Each of the pieces features an ornate butterfly. Mariposa silks are available in a variety of colors: lavender, red, white, black, yellow, and pink.

Next came the alluring Angelzinz Serpente, modeling Eye-Catcher's sensational Scorpio Zodiac silks. There are twelve versions of the Zodiac silks, of course, each in a different color and adorned with a unique horoscope symbol. Zodiac silks make the perfect birthday gift!

Next on the runway was the beautiful Bastet Lyon in Consie's gorgeous Black Rahana silks. These are available in 5 shimmering colors: white, yellow, black, red and pink. The Rahana Silks are adorned with gold chains, but the same silks are also available with silver chains in the Rilana collection. Both sets come with the Eye-catcher HUD, including dances, highlights, blacklist, and awesome stripper feature. The selected item is torn off in an animated flourish and tossed into the air, where it gently floats to the ground!

Next came the marvellous Moria Thespian, in an eye-popping set of Eye-Catcher's Isis Silks. These silks feature a unique Egyptian symbol, keeping in theme with the new BDSM Life sim decor. Isis Silks are available in 10 stunning colors.

Moving next to latex, naughty Nova Kiranov wore Constanza Amsterdam's awesome Alena skirt and corset, one of several new outfits from Eye-Catcher. These are transferable so they may be purchased as a gift for that special girl in your life.

Next on the runway was the adorable Amandy Netizen in Eye-Catcher's alluring Azah latex outfit and ballet boots. She wore the baby blue version, but these are also available in gold, green, white, blue, pink, silver, purple, and red.

Yours truly then took the runway, cleaning up in a lusty latex French Maid costume and black ballet slippers. This set comes with the skirt, top, nylon stocking, and cap. Also included is the feather duster, sure to tickle your fancy!

Last but certainly not least, Moria appeared again to debut Consie's brand sparkling new Midnight Express Silks, fresh off the loom! These beautiful new silks come in three luscious colors, black, pink, and green.

Many thanks to Cybercat Bekkers for the awesome photos, Qudex Coronet for doing a great job on the mic as always, to all of teh lovely models, and to everybody who attended! You are all what makes BDSM Life sim a great place to be!
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3. Bondage Awards Second Stage Voting



Voting for the 2009 Bondage Awards has closed. A week of double-checking is required before the winners will b known. Results will be posted Sunday, April 19th.

Thanks to everybody who voted for BDSM-Life.com for your support
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4. Tarl's Story



Dragon Story by Tarl Field
Part One:
Now this begins when the men in the world were true to their words and ladies were true ladies.

In a small town a man waved good bye to the girl he loved to stand by his king defending the land and he did not want to go but he had promised his Lord to protect the land and since he had honor he stood by his word. The road was actually well kept and the nature was grand with big trees and field with corn and wheat. The man joined a army of the soldiers who marched fast to keep the city safe. Now they did not get to the battle field because they were attacked by the enemies fierce fighting dragons. These were dragons trained only to bring destruction and terror, but some of the men survived the attack and made it to the inn down the road and found it partly burnt down...and they heard screams for help inside, and they started to clear the burnt wood away and found a hatch in the ground and got it opened. Inside the cellar, the men found 4 girls chained up and locked to the walls. They managed to break the chains to the walls and sent the guy that left his girl in the city to get them back safely and the others stay a bit behind to cover their back as the girls could not walk very fast. So they had to find a place to hide and they knew of a cave which were nearby but had heard that it held dangers beyond the brave men's bravery. But they had no choice but to enter the cave, and so they went inside, only to find it empty expect for a big rock in the back of the cave.

The men started to build a big fire as it was very cold outside and the girls did not have much clothes on and once the fire was alighted, the girls gathered around the fire, as it grew bigger and warmer. So the men, that rescued the girls, had to feed them the warm food they prepared as the chains were too strong to break. The men also kept the girls warm, by laying down as closer to the girls, as they could to get extra warmth.

In the middle of the night, the cave started to shake and the rock was shaking and the men and the girls woke up, and ran further inside as they heard a loud crash and all was silent for a long time maybe just second but it felt like hours. Suddenly they heard a a loud scream of some animal. One of the men went to look, he ran back white as a sheet, whispering in dread, "They found us" and told the rest of the group that there was a huge dragon in the back of the cave. The man who left his girl behind, stood up and walked to the back of the cave, turned a corner and found a small dragon, like a baby. He picked the small dragon up, and the group heard echoes of laughs, as the man walked back, not looking behind him.

The girls shivered, their faces white as a sheet, pointed to something behind him, while the rest of the men stood up, their hands like fists, held them up. The man with the small dragon was asking what's wrong, when he turns around only to face the biggest dragon he has ever seen.

The dragon was very big, even beyond the fighting dragons' standards. The dragon was totally black with a strange shimmering gold touch to the rim of each scale. Her eyes were hard to describe but they did capture you.

Now the man who was holding the baby dragon in his arms was frozen in place in pure fright. The big dragon lower its head coming really close, nudging the warrior almost gently to snap him out of his shock, and the man snaps out of it almost dropping the baby but manages to catch it. He takes a blanket out of his bag, and lays the baby dragon gently on the blanket.

The man looks at the big dragon and realized that the big dragon was trying to tell him something.

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5. Domme/sub/switch Corner



Please submit your experiences as Domme, sub, or switch, for publication in future newsletters. Just send a NC to Roni Scarmon or Cazzy Hax for consideration.
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6. BDSM Slave Auction (by Hornet Lefevre)



Although it was brief, we had another very exciting and enjoyable auction on Saturday. Sedesta was our slave on auction, and having attracted a large amount of interest in her previous auction, good things were expected for this auction. We were not disappointed as bidding was quickly raised to a price well above the norm for a slave, and into the region expected for the experienced individual that Sedesta is. Bidding finished and both slave and Mistress went away happy with the way everything went.

We are always looking for more slaves to auction and would encourage anyone interested to either contact me for an application form or visit BDSM-Life and click on the barrel at the landing zone where application forms are stored. I look forward to hearing form any interested applicants.

The next auction is at 3.00pm SLT on Saturday 18th April. I look forwrad to seeing you all there.

Hornet Lefevre
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7. Photo Contest



We have some sexy people who are brave enough to put up a picture of themselves that you can vote for, but who are they? See below! :-) They need YOUR votes! :-) Go to BDSM-Life and vote!

Females:

Anya Ariea (1)
Baby Anatra (68)
Sharra Bravin (8)
Esha Bruun (84 - current leader)
Lynn Hamer (48)
Cazzy Hax (66)
Cahill McCallen (36)
Ellyssia Sexton (27)

Males:
Thomas Aker (13 - current leader)
Tarl Field (7)
Corvan Nansen (7)

So, go on, don't be shy! Take a picture of yourself, show off your sexy and handsome body! *giggle*

$L5000 each for the female and for the male winners. So a lot of money……! Entry is only $50L, and votes cost $10L each or $50L for 6!

Come along to BDSM-Life and enter the photo contest in the Dating Centre! And at the same time, why don't you vote for your favourite picture?

The Photo Contest will run from now to June 1..
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8. Classified and Personal Ads



At BDSM-Life, we have Personal Ads boards where you can put up a personal ad to let people know that you are looking for someone!!!!

Aeonflux Llewellyn writes "Hello, this girl has a good imagination and is highly literate. She appreciates seduction and romance but can respond eagerly to other approaches as well. This girl is wired to please and wants to make you feel like she has been longing and aching for you and only you forever. after that pleasing you in what ever way you want is what she wants too. come, let this girl make you feel like the most special person she has ever been with. Her hard limits are scat, animals, kids, blood, and extreme pain. If it turns you on, she can get into most anything else. Please give her a chance to serve you, sir."

Shiva Jumanya says "Male Dominant, real life experience preferred. Please read The Dominant's Creed at http://www.wired-productionz.com/bri.dhe/Library.html to understand what I am looking for, it says it far better than I can. Honesty and reliability is a must, should have at least 6 hours a week in SL to spend with me in order to build the relationship."

Timelord Aeon says "i am 32 years old dom form the uk. im a search for a sub/slave who is sub/slave in rl. aged 20 to 40. who is single in sl and rl.
and will start relationship in sl and then take it to rl."

Please go to the personal ads boards at BDSM-Life, and click on the name to get their notecards.

If you are interested, look for their full information cards in the neww Dating Centre & Photo Contest pyramid!

We have plenty of spaces for people to post up on the boards at BDSM-Life. Even better if your picture is up on the boards, we will put your name and details in the newsletter.

Please either IM or send a notecard to Roni Scarmon to let her know if you have a personal ad at BDSM-Life and she will put your personal ad in the newsletter.

What a better way to look for new lovers, new sub/slave, new Mistress/Master!
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9. Events @ BDSM-Life



Monday
12PM - Open Discussion with Cazzy Hax - BDSM toys and how to use them (RL & SL)*cancelled*

Tuesday
1PM - Storytelling with Tarl Field

Thursday
12PM till 3 PM - BDSM Classes by Tarl Field - Dominance

Saturday
12PM till 2 PM - Party in the Club with Cazzy Hax as hostess (a theme to be announced during the week, keep an eye out for this space.....)

3PM - Slave Auction with Hornet and Lallie

Sunday
12pm till 3 pm SLT - Restrained Life Class with Tarl Field

Lectures and classes are held in the Lecture Room.

We will update the blog website during the week for events.

If you have any ideas or suggestions for new events, contact Constanza Amsterdam. If you want to lead a class in any topic related to BDSM, contact either Constanza Amsterdam or Tarl Field.
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9. In other news......

The newsletter staff heard rumours that Eye-Catcher and BDSM Life will be particpating in a treasure hunt! See the next issue of BDSM Life newsletter for more information.

Check out the Eye-Catcher web site Consie has been working on!
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Past issues of the BDSM-life newsletter may be found at in case you have missed them.

We also have a newsletter-stand at the landing point at BDSM-Life that your friends can take if they are not a member of the BDSM-Life group. Even better yet, get them to join our group! :-)

Spread the word!

We welcome new ideas or suggestions, or writers for the newsletter! And any comments! Send a notecard to Roni Scarmon!

Thank you!
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Blog: http://bdsm-lifenewsletter.blogspot.com/

Pictures by Cazzy Hax, Cybercat Bekkers, Hornet Lefevre, Roni Scarmon
Articles by Cazzy Hax, Constanza Amsterdam, Hornet Lefevre, Roni Scarmon and Tarl Feild
Copyright @ BDSM-Life

Saturday, 11 April 2009

Bondage and Safety - April 9, 2009

[2009/04/09 12:03] Tarl Field: Okay the subject is bondage and safety.
[2009/04/09 12:04] Tarl Field: So lets start with the more fun topic bondage
[2009/04/09 12:04] Jan Levee: ...
[2009/04/09 12:04] Jan Levee mumbles "..."
[2009/04/09 12:04] Tarl Field: Bondage is not limited to using just rope or cuffs you can use almost any material to restraint someone with.
[2009/04/09 12:05] Tarl Field: For the more odd bondage item i heard about is actually a armbind made out of 3 pair of pantyhose... grins
[2009/04/09 12:06] Tarl Field: When i first heard it was very unsure if it was true but it works as i tested it on a friend and she could not get out and since the other leg was pulled over her head she was semi blind as well
[2009/04/09 12:06] Tarl Field: Thats just one way. Satin sashes works as well if you want to restrain any one.
[2009/04/09 12:06] Dionysos Ulrik makes a note of that
[2009/04/09 12:06] Tarl Field: And the nylonarmbinder you can increas the number of layers to make it harder
[2009/04/09 12:07] Tarl Field: Now what other material can you use?
[2009/04/09 12:07] Tarl Field: Beside rope and cuffs
[2009/04/09 12:07] Dionysos Ulrik: duck tape
[2009/04/09 12:07] Tarl Field: Thats one and also a soft thing like bandages
[2009/04/09 12:07] Dionysos Ulrik: cling fole
[2009/04/09 12:08] Tarl Field: Now cling foil or film you have to be carefull with for a few reason
[2009/04/09 12:08] Tarl Field: One it can cause the body to overheat
[2009/04/09 12:08] Tarl Field: Two it might compress your arms and legs making it hard for the blood to flow freely
[2009/04/09 12:09] Dionysos Ulrik nods
[2009/04/09 12:09] Lilystarre Darkstone: nodding softly as she listens quietly
[2009/04/09 12:09] Tarl Field: And if you want to wrapp their heads make sure you make holes for them to breaththroug at each layer
[2009/04/09 12:10] Susanne Rugani: and be careful with duck tape and eyebrows ;)
[2009/04/09 12:10] Dionysos Ulrik grins
[2009/04/09 12:10] Tarl Field: And the bandages can also cause blood flow problems if its wrapped to tight
[2009/04/09 12:10] Tarl Field: Ohh yes ductape and hair dont mix...lol
[2009/04/09 12:10] Dionysos Ulrik: hard core wax job :)
[2009/04/09 12:11] Tarl Field: In deed
[2009/04/09 12:12] Tarl Field: And ofcourse you have the expansive leather and latex restraints to use but most of us cant afford those expensive bodybags and so on... smiles
[2009/04/09 12:13] Tarl Field: Now if a sub is flexible enough to get their elbows touching behind their back what should you think off.
[2009/04/09 12:14] Dionysos Ulrik: that the blood stream issint vut off
[2009/04/09 12:14] Dionysos Ulrik: cut
[2009/04/09 12:14] Tarl Field: Bloodflow as their veins an be blocked in the shoulder area
[2009/04/09 12:15] Susanne Rugani: oh really?
[2009/04/09 12:15] Tarl Field: And of course the hands...
[2009/04/09 12:15] Tarl Field: Yes as you pull the elbows together behind your back you stretch and press the skin and muscles in the front and that can block blood flowe
[2009/04/09 12:17] Dionysos Ulrik: is this the same with leggs ?
[2009/04/09 12:17] Tarl Field: And if you want to tie a crotchrope on your sub for a longer period of time. Make sure there is a thin layer proventing shaffing... smiles
[2009/04/09 12:17] Tarl Field: if you bend the legs in a hogtie be carefull with the teansion on the rop above the knees
[2009/04/09 12:17] Dionysos Ulrik nods
[2009/04/09 12:17] Tarl Field: Any questions so far?
[2009/04/09 12:18] Dionysos Ulrik: no not yet realy
[2009/04/09 12:18] Dionysos Ulrik: just one . what time does the demo sub commes in ?
[2009/04/09 12:18] Dionysos Ulrik smiles
[2009/04/09 12:18] Lilystarre Darkstone: a soft shake of her head*whispers* no Sir, not at this time *soft smile
[2009/04/09 12:19] Tarl Field: sadly i have no models at my bidding this night
[2009/04/09 12:19] Tarl Field: What i talked about so far is physical bondage
[2009/04/09 12:19] Tarl Field: There is something called mental bondage which might sound funny
[2009/04/09 12:20] Tarl Field: But its rather simple..
[2009/04/09 12:20] Tarl Field: If you order your sub to say kneeling in the hall way waiting for you to come home in a outfit you want them to wear thats a form of control and there for a mental bondage
[2009/04/09 12:21] Tarl Field: Now what other forms of mental bondage can you think off
[2009/04/09 12:21] Dionysos Ulrik: restrictions
[2009/04/09 12:21] Tarl Field: Good anything else
[2009/04/09 12:22] Lilystarre Darkstone: *lifts a hands,shyly,,,whispers** would having your sub kneel in a corner,"straight up on her knees",qualify, Sir?
[2009/04/09 12:22] Tarl Field: It would...
[2009/04/09 12:22] Tarl Field: As your ordered to stay on one spot without any physical bindings..
[2009/04/09 12:22] Leila Chieng: or simply don't allow your sub to speak
[2009/04/09 12:22] Dionysos Ulrik: not beeing alowed ta talk
[2009/04/09 12:23] Leila Chieng smiles
[2009/04/09 12:23] Tarl Field: The talking is a good example...
[2009/04/09 12:23] Lilystarre Darkstone: nodding softly,,whispers* yes Sir ,,,, thank You
[2009/04/09 12:23] Tarl Field: Works extra good if the sub never stops talking...lol
[2009/04/09 12:23] Dionysos Ulrik nods and smiles thinking of his donald duck sub
[2009/04/09 12:24] Tarl Field: And you can combine the two if your real evil say locking their hands in front with cuffs but leaving they keys where they can see them..
[2009/04/09 12:24] Tarl Field: And saying that they are not allowed to use the keys
[2009/04/09 12:24] Lilystarre Darkstone: nods softly as she listens ,,,
[2009/04/09 12:25] Dionysos Ulrik: letting her kneel with 2 glasses of water filled to the egde .... and forbid to make a drop .....
[2009/04/09 12:25] Tarl Field: And of course as always if you gag your sub make sure they are never alone
[2009/04/09 12:25] Tarl Field: Dion thats a evil idea i like it
[2009/04/09 12:26] Dionysos Ulrik: its gets better when you pleausre her .. they fault every time :)
[2009/04/09 12:26] Tarl Field: As i said a evil idea
[2009/04/09 12:26] Susanne Rugani: lol
[2009/04/09 12:26] Dionysos Ulrik nods and hides his horns
[2009/04/09 12:26] Tarl Field: But you need to give them a chance to complete their tasks or they might feel as failures
[2009/04/09 12:27] Tarl Field: Its a balance act as with any thing you need to balance it out or the sub might feel they failed you
[2009/04/09 12:27] Dionysos Ulrik: not always . but you are right
[2009/04/09 12:27] Tarl Field: And thats something every sub hates to feel
[2009/04/09 12:28] Tarl Field: So which form of bondage requiers the most supervision
[2009/04/09 12:28] Tarl Field: A normal tied to the bed... or a strict hogtie
[2009/04/09 12:28] Dionysos Ulrik: breathing
[2009/04/09 12:28] Dionysos Ulrik: oh a hogtie
[2009/04/09 12:28] Tarl Field: Breathing is a dangerous play as it can cause braindamages
[2009/04/09 12:29] Dionysos Ulrik nods
[2009/04/09 12:29] Dionysos Ulrik: even with a gag it can be dangerous when not beeing watched
[2009/04/09 12:29] Tarl Field: exactly
[2009/04/09 12:29] Lilystarre Darkstone: *softly* she would think that both would require supervision,Sir, as something could go wrong in both instances ,,,
[2009/04/09 12:29] Leila Chieng: every physical bondage should be supervised
[2009/04/09 12:29] Dionysos Ulrik: one more then the other i think
[2009/04/09 12:30] Tarl Field: As a friend told me use a cleave gag first then pack other material over that as the cleavage gag will stop the packing from getting down the throat
[2009/04/09 12:30] Susanne Rugani: everything where you stand. if you faint you will hang around for a while if no one is there.
[2009/04/09 12:30] Dionysos Ulrik: i got this solved with my camera . that i can see from the other room on my screen . when i leave her alone for some time
[2009/04/09 12:31] Tarl Field: Your both correct but the first thats tied to the bed will handle better if you need to go to the kitchen to fix something to drink
[2009/04/09 12:31] Tarl Field: Thats one way
[2009/04/09 12:31] Tarl Field: Any way of keeping track of your subs safety is good
[2009/04/09 12:31] Dionysos Ulrik: but that doenst mean you can leave her to long alone
[2009/04/09 12:31] Lilystarre Darkstone: softly* excuse this girl,Sir,,, but what is a cleavage gag? she is not familiar,,,
[2009/04/09 12:32] Tarl Field: if you take a scarf and just fold it up and tie it betwen your lips and pull it hard it will cleve your lips hence the name clevegag
[2009/04/09 12:32] Arn Lannock is Online
[2009/04/09 12:32] Lilystarre Darkstone: ahhh,,, thank You,Sir *soft smile*
[2009/04/09 12:33] Tarl Field: your welcome
[2009/04/09 12:33] Tarl Field: And there is one type of bondage that you need to be extra carefull with. And thats breastbondage
[2009/04/09 12:34] Lilystarre Darkstone: nodding as she listens attentively
[2009/04/09 12:34] Tarl Field: Specially if your sub happens to have implants
[2009/04/09 12:34] Tarl Field: But even in normal case you need to be carefull and make sure you can untie the thin cord...
[2009/04/09 12:34] Dionysos Ulrik grins when he sees in his mind implants shooting across the room
[2009/04/09 12:35] Tarl Field: The danger that a implant might burst or start leaking is small but how ever they are there
[2009/04/09 12:35] Tarl Field: But a tight breastbondage that makes their breast and nipples extra sensative is fun
[2009/04/09 12:35] Tarl Field: Although i doubt the sub might agree all the time...lol
[2009/04/09 12:36] Dionysos Ulrik smiles
[2009/04/09 12:36] Lilystarre Darkstone: smiles softly,eyes darkening slightly
[2009/04/09 12:36] Tarl Field: Now Nippleclamps you should be carefull with as they will cut of the blood flow to the nipple
[2009/04/09 12:36] Tarl Field: Some one told me 5 to 10 min max...
[2009/04/09 12:36] Dionysos Ulrik: it also depends on the kind of bite it has
[2009/04/09 12:36] Tarl Field: But that depends on which clamps and how tightly they are applied
[2009/04/09 12:37] Lilystarre Darkstone: *softly* she has heard 3-5 minutes,Sir ,,,
[2009/04/09 12:37] Dionysos Ulrik: when you can adjust it you can put them on a long time
[2009/04/09 12:37] Lilystarre Darkstone: what of a "zipper",Sir? for a time limit?
[2009/04/09 12:38] Tarl Field: zipper thats something i have not heard about please explain
[2009/04/09 12:38] Dionysos Ulrik: a row of clothing clambs
[2009/04/09 12:38] Anaxagoras McMillan is Online
[2009/04/09 12:38] Tarl Field: Ahhhh now i follow
[2009/04/09 12:38] Dionysos Ulrik: there you ahve on Tarl i just gave you
[2009/04/09 12:39] Dionysos Ulrik: one
[2009/04/09 12:39] Tarl Field: samething there be carefull with the time but if they sit in the skin it can be longer..
[2009/04/09 12:39] Dionysos Ulrik gave you Clothespin Zipper.
[2009/04/09 12:39] Lilystarre Darkstone: *softly* a zipper,Sir, is composed of ... *nods to Sir Dion,whispers* along a cord or string,,, they are simultaneously "ripped" off -- sighs
[2009/04/09 12:39] Tarl Field: Now i really know what your meaning lily
[2009/04/09 12:39] Tarl Field: Still be carefull of how long they stay on
[2009/04/09 12:39] Lilystarre Darkstone: smiles softly*
[2009/04/09 12:40] Dionysos Ulrik: you explained a better then me lily . thank you
[2009/04/09 12:40] Tarl Field: Every thing is based on how much the body can take
[2009/04/09 12:40] Tarl Field: With training the sub can learn to stand more and more
[2009/04/09 12:40] Tarl Field: But a body always has a limit
[2009/04/09 12:40] Lilystarre Darkstone smiles over to Sir Dion,whispers* You are most welcome,Sir,,, t'is her pleasure *smiles
[2009/04/09 12:41] Tarl Field: And with gags always remember this if the sub is the least amount of cold i dont recommend a gag
[2009/04/09 12:41] Lilystarre Darkstone: *eyes shimmer,,whispers* oh,Sir?
[2009/04/09 12:41] Dionysos Ulrik: i got a question about that ..... is it true the the skin gets "thicker" when it get "used" more ?
[2009/04/09 12:41] Tarl Field: well a cold usually makes it hard to breath through the nose correct
[2009/04/09 12:42] Tarl Field: Dion in a way yes
[2009/04/09 12:42] Lilystarre Darkstone: ahh,,, having a cold,,, yes Sir ,,that is correct --
[2009/04/09 12:42] Tarl Field: But it dont get thicker physically
[2009/04/09 12:42] Dionysos Ulrik: every part of the body ?
[2009/04/09 12:42] Tarl Field: After a time the body starts reading the pain signal as less and less
[2009/04/09 12:42] Tarl Field: which is a risk at it self
[2009/04/09 12:42] Lilystarre Darkstone: she misunderstood You to mean that is the sub's body was cold,,,*warm smile
[2009/04/09 12:43] Tarl Field: Ahhh no i meant the illness cold... smiles
[2009/04/09 12:43] Dionysos Ulrik: this has to do with nervus i gues ?
[2009/04/09 12:43] Clairin Chronowire is Offline
[2009/04/09 12:43] Lilystarre Darkstone: laughing softly* yes Sir
[2009/04/09 12:43] Tarl Field: correct dion
[2009/04/09 12:44] Tarl Field: Its like some martial arts they train to reprogram the body to not react on the pain and in time the body dont feel the pain and can contiune to fight
[2009/04/09 12:44] Tarl Field: Same thing apply to pain in time the body will handle higher and higher levels
[2009/04/09 12:44] Lilystarre Darkstone: nodding thoughtfully**
[2009/04/09 12:44] Dionysos Ulrik: is it a good idea to test this out on a new sub with like say . a needle . to get a understading how "thick "her skin is ?
[2009/04/09 12:44] Tarl Field: That when you have to be really alert to read the signs so you dont hurt your sub badly
[2009/04/09 12:45] Tarl Field: I dont know needles hurt even if your thick skinned..laugh
[2009/04/09 12:45] Dionysos Ulrik: or how sensivtive
[2009/04/09 12:45] Lilystarre Darkstone: ,,, this is where safe words would come in,Sir?
[2009/04/09 12:45] Tarl Field: exactly
[2009/04/09 12:45] Tarl Field: or a safe humming if your gagged
[2009/04/09 12:46] Dionysos Ulrik: i let my sub hold a set of keys in her hand when she hads her gag / she drops them as a safeword
[2009/04/09 12:46] Tarl Field: that works as well
[2009/04/09 12:46] Tarl Field: As long as you have a word/hum/sign that means stop i have a problem its all good
[2009/04/09 12:46] Dionysos Ulrik nods
[2009/04/09 12:47] Lilystarre Darkstone: * nods nods* this is something that she has heard as well, Sir Dion -- smiles softly
[2009/04/09 12:47] Tarl Field: Dont ever forget that safety is the most important thing
[2009/04/09 12:48] Tarl Field: Okay i am leaving the floor open for questions...
[2009/04/09 12:48] Dionysos Ulrik: safety is the number one in every kind of play
[2009/04/09 12:48] Dionysos Ulrik: upside down hanging .. how long is still safe without a safeword ?
[2009/04/09 12:49] Tarl Field: Well i would say when the sub gets light headed or getting to turn red in her face you might give them a break so 10-20 min
[2009/04/09 12:49] Dionysos Ulrik: i mean that she doenst use it ..... but i can imaging that the blood to the head will cause damage
[2009/04/09 12:49] Dionysos Ulrik nods . ok thank you
[2009/04/09 12:49] Tarl Field: not damage but the body is not built to pump blood that way
[2009/04/09 12:50] Tarl Field: I am a safety nut but i also learn bdsm and bondage aspecially by my own mistakes
[2009/04/09 12:50] Dionysos Ulrik: i have on more . whats the deal with water bondage ?
[2009/04/09 12:50] Tarl Field: Thats a more dangerous form
[2009/04/09 12:51] Tarl Field: you tie the sub up and throw them in a pool and let the try and get out under water
[2009/04/09 12:51] Tarl Field: As you can tell its a dangerous game
[2009/04/09 12:51] Tarl Field: ONe: The rope swell in water.
[2009/04/09 12:51] Dionysos Ulrik: when you use high presure water on her body it can cut her as well i gues
[2009/04/09 12:51] Dionysos Ulrik waits
[2009/04/09 12:51] Tarl Field: Two its harder to untie a knot under water due to one..
[2009/04/09 12:51] Lilystarre Darkstone: listens ,,,
[2009/04/09 12:52] Tarl Field: And underwater if you need to breath you cant..
[2009/04/09 12:52] Tarl Field: so water bondage is not something i recommend
[2009/04/09 12:53] Dionysos Ulrik: when she is under water
[2009/04/09 12:53] Dionysos Ulrik: and its a lot harder to chekc on youre sub wel beeing
[2009/04/09 12:53] Tarl Field: exactly
[2009/04/09 12:53] Tarl Field: and a nomral human can hold their breath around 60 second if they remain calm
[2009/04/09 12:53] Lilystarre Darkstone: might this be done more safely, in say, a bath tub? monitoring might be easier ,,,
[2009/04/09 12:53] Tarl Field: If they panic it will be much shorter
[2009/04/09 12:54] Tarl Field: well still you nedd to make sure your master never leaves you
[2009/04/09 12:54] Dionysos Ulrik: a glass see through thank would be best i gues
[2009/04/09 12:54] Dionysos Ulrik: tank
[2009/04/09 12:54] Tarl Field: well you have a problem how will you reach your sub in the tank
[2009/04/09 12:54] Dionysos Ulrik nods
[2009/04/09 12:54] Dionysos Ulrik: call baywatch
[2009/04/09 12:55] Tarl Field: well it may be to late when they come
[2009/04/09 12:55] Lilystarre Darkstone: ohhh yes,Sir,,, thank You
[2009/04/09 12:55] Dionysos Ulrik: you are right
[2009/04/09 12:55] Tarl Field: Seriously be very carefull around water if you do bondage
[2009/04/09 12:55] Dionysos Ulrik: i have never tried i just heard of it
[2009/04/09 12:56] Fredrik McGinnis is Offline
[2009/04/09 12:56] Tarl Field: I tried it on a beach by floating my sub while she was tied up but i never let her go so she sank under water
[2009/04/09 12:56] Tarl Field: she was stressed enough from floating tied up
[2009/04/09 12:56] Dionysos Ulrik: i can imaging that very well
[2009/04/09 12:56] Lilystarre Darkstone: she too can imagine, Sir ,,,,
[2009/04/09 12:57] Dionysos Ulrik smiles
[2009/04/09 12:57] Tarl Field: Plus if you carry a bound girl into the water at a public beach well how long do you think it takes the cops to show up... grins
[2009/04/09 12:57] Lilystarre Darkstone: laughing softly* You do have a point,Sir
[2009/04/09 12:57] Tarl Field: I know as i been pulled over by the police suspected of kidnapping
[2009/04/09 12:58] Fredrik McGinnis is Online
[2009/04/09 12:58] Dionysos Ulrik: and that wassent part of the rp ?
[2009/04/09 12:58] Dionysos Ulrik smiles
[2009/04/09 12:58] Susanne Rugani: lol
[2009/04/09 12:58] Lilystarre Darkstone: swallows her laughter -- whispers* ohh my
[2009/04/09 12:58] Tarl Field: All because we dumped a friend into the trunk and drove around a corned and let her out but no one saw her being let out...lol
[2009/04/09 12:58] Dionysos Ulrik: ahahahah
[2009/04/09 12:59] Dionysos Ulrik: we have that every year with the new students
[2009/04/09 12:59] Tarl Field: Its not fun to be stopped by 4 copcars with all the cops being about 6"4
[2009/04/09 12:59] Tarl Field: I was lucky to get oof with a warning....lol
[2009/04/09 13:00] Tarl Field: But to end this class remember play fun, consecsual and safe
[2009/04/09 13:00] Tarl Field: So you can play many more days
[2009/04/09 13:00] Leila Chieng smiles
[2009/04/09 13:00] Tarl Field: And thanks for coming
[2009/04/09 13:00] Dionysos Ulrik: beeing pulled over with in the back seat 2 tied up subs and a trunk full of "play" gear is a good story as well
[2009/04/09 13:00] Dionysos Ulrik: thank you for youre time Tarl
[2009/04/09 13:01] Tarl Field: Next weel it will be dominance and it might be a t a later time so check the noties
[2009/04/09 13:01] Tarl Field: week
[2009/04/09 13:01] Dionysos Ulrik: same time Tarl ?
[2009/04/09 13:01] Tarl Field: Trying to match the time so it fit the states a bit better
[2009/04/09 13:01] Lilystarre Darkstone: softly* thank You,Sir ... t'was an intersting class
[2009/04/09 13:01] Tarl Field: Might be 1 or 2 hours later
[2009/04/09 13:01] Dionysos Ulrik: oh ok no problem
[2009/04/09 13:02] Susanne Rugani: thanks tarl!
[2009/04/09 13:02] Leila Chieng: Thank you for the lesson
[2009/04/09 13:02] Jan Levee: Thank you Sir
[2009/04/09 13:02] Tarl Field: Your all welcome